Being an adopted kid is no different from being a biological kid. I have the same emotions, fears, likes, dislikes etc.
I have always been curious about where I’ve come from – who my birth parents were, how did they look and why they placed me for adoption, did I have any siblings, and so on. But it has never bothered me even once. All I know is that whatever my situation was, my birth parents wanted me to have a future, so they gave me to an adoption agency.
I have grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, all who love me for who I am. Many of my friends also know that I was adopted and they are totally cool with it. I really have created friendships with amazing people.
I have a younger sister who is was adopted as well, and she looks a bit like me – dusky, chocolate brown. About seven years into my life, I realised that since I was an only child I didn’t have a person to play with after a long day at school, someone to rant to, someone to sneak chocolate with… so I asked my parents for a sister. It took a lot (and I mean a lot) of convincing to get my parents to agree. My sister and I are like eggs and toast, always together. We laugh together, cry together, argue with each other, watch movies together and gossip together too (sometimes), just like all other sets of siblings, biological or adopted. I can’t imagine myself without her. I love her, and I’m so happy to have her in my life.
A lot of people have asked me, “You and your sister look nothing like your parents, they are lighter skinned and you both are darker.” I don’t believe that the skin colour should define who you are. So, I reply, “How does it matter what colour we are?”
I have also been asked this question a millions of times, “Your parents are tall, but how come you are not?” I try to answer these questions plainly by saying that I was adopted, and that is why I don’t look like my parents.
How does it matter whether you’re tall, short, dusky, or not, adopted or biological? In a family, it is the bond that we share that is so special. It is the fact that we support each other through rough times, to encourage and to stand by each other. And most importantly love each other.
Aadhu! We love you sweetheart.
Beautifully articulated thoughts young lady. Hugs from us
Love this honest, straight-from-the-heart write up. Your confidence in and comfort level with who you are shows a maturity I don’t see in many adults! God bless you, child. And your family!
Aadya – what a lovely writeup- such maturity, sensitivity in one so young! Bless you always!
Wow Aadhya !! What a matured writing . A lot to learn from you darling girl to look at life in a certain way . Gats, you have done a great job raising a wonderful human being
Aadhu, as always, you leave me speechless. What a beautiful post, straight from the heart. I am sure your message is going to change many lives….love you to bits!
Such a lovely article Aadu! Straight from the heart and speaks so much about the person you are.
I hope this article encourages more adoptees to speak their hearts and spread the message of love
Proud of you always, darling cousin ????
Aadu, can’t tell you how proud I am of you and your parents, them for bringing both of you to us, and you for bringing the joy that you do in our lives. It has been a pleasure watching you grow into a beautiful girl, and i can’t tell you how proud varkey and i are of you. Stay as lovely as you are right now and i have no doubt the world will be at your feet. Love you loads, peramma
Aadhu, beautifully written and straight from the heart. I’m very proud of you kanna and love you loads!!!
Well written adu badu
Beautifully said Aadhya!
Beautifully written Aadya! Much love and hugs!!
Beautifully written dear.It is truly refreshing to hear a positive and cheerful story or outlook to adoption.Bravo. God bless the parents who have taken this decision to adopt or bless the children who chose the parents.