The conventional approach is one of ‘matching’ – mostly in terms of skin colour of the parents. However, this is literally a skin-deep approach. After all, there are quite a few biological children who look very different from their parents or siblings.
Remember that truly strong bonds are built over time, as you spend time caring for and nurturing your child.
The more important thought here is the distinction you make in your mind, not the external distinctions. If distinctions cloud your thoughts, it will not work, irrespective of how well the baby is physically matched in one’s environment. There is no right or wrong choice, but you need to be clear in your mind about your reasons for opting for adoption.
Do you feel secure facing tough questions, and are you comfortable with the reasons? The reasons why you want to adopt are pivotal to the way you handlepost adoption concerns. Always seek the advice of an adoption counsellor prior to the process.
- Have you gotten past the feeling of inadequacy of not having a birth child ?
- Can you unconditionally accept a child of another cultural, social and religious background?
- Can you tackle concerns regarding adoption without any pre-conceived prejudices?
- Is the extended family ready to accept the child and be inclusive in the long run? If not, how do you bring them into the fold and accept the decision?
- A married couple
- An Indian citizen
- Non-resident Indian
- Overseas citizen of India
- Foreign prospective adoptive parents
- A single man (unmarried, divorced or single)
- A single woman (unmarried, divorced or single)
|Age of the child||Maximum composite age of prospective adoptive parents||Maximum age of Single Parents|
|Upto 4yrs||90 years||45 years|
|From 4 and upto8 years||100 years||50 years|
As soon as a child is declared legally free for adoption by the Child Welfare Committee, he or she will be allowed to be placed
Note: In recent times it’s taken upto 2 to 2 1/2 yrs to adopt in the 0-2 category, and now in the current scenario with COVID lockdown there could be further delay. (Padme’s perspective)