Being an adopted kid is no different from being a biological kid. I have the same emotions, fears, likes, dislikes etc.
I have always been curious about where I’ve come from – who my birth parents were, how did they look and why they placed me for adoption, did I have any siblings, and so on. But it has never bothered me even once. All I know is that whatever my situation was, my birth parents wanted me to have a future, so they gave me to an adoption agency.
I have grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, all who love me for who I am. Many of my friends also know that I was adopted and they are totally cool with it. I really have created friendships with amazing people.
I have a younger sister who is was adopted as well, and she looks a bit like me – dusky, chocolate brown. About seven years into my life, I realised that since I was an only child I didn’t have a person to play with after a long day at school, someone to rant to, someone to sneak chocolate with… so I asked my parents for a sister. It took a lot (and I mean a lot) of convincing to get my parents to agree. My sister and I are like eggs and toast, always together. We laugh together, cry together, argue with each other, watch movies together and gossip together too (sometimes), just like all other sets of siblings, biological or adopted. I can’t imagine myself without her. I love her, and I’m so happy to have her in my life.
A lot of people have asked me, “You and your sister look nothing like your parents, they are lighter skinned and you both are darker.” I don’t believe that the skin colour should define who you are. So, I reply, “How does it matter what colour we are?”
I have also been asked this question a millions of times, “Your parents are tall, but how come you are not?” I try to answer these questions plainly by saying that I was adopted, and that is why I don’t look like my parents.
How does it matter whether you’re tall, short, dusky, or not, adopted or biological? In a family, it is the bond that we share that is so special. It is the fact that we support each other through rough times, to encourage and to stand by each other. And most importantly love each other.